I'm doing what I can for the pregnant community, but I wanted to have a brief discussion about another issue that affects us women (and some men, too, according to an article I just read)--Post-Partum Depression. PPD can happen to anyone, not just those who have suffered depression in the past. And, as I discovered, despite the name it can start during the pregnancy. PPD is not to be confused with "baby blues" which only last a few weeks. PPD is a serious illness and requires counseling and possibly medication. A woman is not "weak" because she has it. It doesn't mean she doesn't love the baby (though she may have trouble with "bonding"). It doesn't mean that she doesn't want to be a mother. It doesn't mean that she will be a bad mother. It's an illness caused by a hormonal imbalance (and we all know how those hormones are out of whack during and after pregnancy). Untreated, it can lead to a terrible illness called Post Partum Dementia, where a woman has thoughts of harming herself or the baby (relax, this doesn't happen in all cases.) I should note that I'm not a psychologist; I just have been there and have read all I can about the subject. Please! If you are feeling signs of depression that do not lift after a few weeks--sadness, listlessness, fatigue (beyond what normal sleeplessness causes), poor appetitite--seek help! I'm sure everyone here will be glad to discuss it with your, but most likely you will need professional help. If you are unsure about whether you have it, ask! It crippled my life before I got it treated. I don't want anyone to have to go through that. Never be afraid to ask for help!
I've been on modified bed rest since 28 weeks and am 35 weeks now. Was on a 50% work schedule before that from 23 -28. I'm still here and the baby is fine, the contractions come and go, go and come. Sometimes really strong and horrid sometimes nothing much. Today's been pretty bad and I think I lost part of my mucas plug, but nothing steady or productive is happening.
Is it fair for me to hate being pregnant now? Being 35 weeks is horrible. Earlier and I'd be at the hospital and would have gotten terb and would be asleep by now, 37 weeks and I'd be fucking my husband's brains out and walking up and down the stairs over and over again. But I'm neither, so I'm just miserable. How bad would it be to do two shots of whiskey and go to bed like my mother suggests? (kidding :)
I wanted to say this is a great idea for a community.
I was on bedrest when I was pregnant with my daughter due to high blood pressure and a MINOR car accident. It last exactly one week. She was born healthy and strong. That was the loooongest week of my life, no one around, only allowed up for bathroom breaks. Not a good time.
If anyone in this situation needs someone. I'll gladly be here for ya as much as possible. Current Mood: ecstatic
Very quick intro
Hi, all. I joined this community for a couple of reasons:
a) I'm interested in women's health - particularly during pregnancy and nursing :)
b) I was on modified bed rest due to pre-term contractions with my third (most recent) pregnancy (Spud is now a very healthy 20 month old) from wk 30 - wk 37.
I don't have a lot of time to chat at this particular moment, but wanted to share the organization that helped me a LOT through my days on bedrest: Sidelines
- it is an organization geared towards pregnant women on bedrest - much like this community! :)
A hearty welcome to women on bedrest! I know you're in a difficult position and that many people in your life will not understand how difficult this is. I know life in bed can be very frustrating, particularly if you have other kids to take care of. Who will do the laundry? Who will cook dinner? How do I keep up with a toddler when I'm supposed to be resting? I can't stop worrying about the baby. I've been there and a lot of other mommies have been there, too. Feel free to complain, vent, share stories, and ask questions. This is the place for you!